The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - Book Review

An insightful and interesting self-help book written by a potty-mouth author- I should've been warned about how much cussing I was to anticipate just reading the title. I listened to the audiobook version so there was no skimming of swear words for me. This may seem an overreaction considering how common it is now to throw in a few F words here and there in content, but I'm a bit old fashioned and enjoy a decent read which won't make me scrunch up my nose ever so often.

The book talks about various aspects of our personalities, how we base our choices, how we arrive at how we feel, and it allows you to sort of run little reality checks on yourself. I appreciate how honest the author is about his revelations, successes, failures and problem areas, good and bad alike. It talks about entitlement, loneliness and I like that the book explores the influence of a smartphone-and-internet-dependent lifestyle on a generation that is materially rich and emotionally drained out, making the book that much relatable. I felt enriched and enjoyed his inferences, stories and analogies; he effortlessly breaks things down to the easiest level possible.  Although I do wonder if it is accurate to assume all of us are basically similar people with similar abilities who can follow similar tactics to address similar/all sorts of problems. Does one size really fit all?

My favorite quote from the book: "Whether you're listening to Aristotle or the psychologist at Harvard or Jesus Christ or the goddamn Beatles, they all say that happiness comes from the same thing- caring about something greater than yourself. Believing that you are a contributing component in some much larger entity, that your life is but a mere side process in some great unintelligible production. This feeling is what people go to church for, it's what they fight in wars for, it's what they raise families and save pensions and build bridges and invent cellphones for. This fleeting sense of being part of something greater and more unknowable than themselves. And entitlement strips this away from us. The gravity of entitlement sucks all attention inward toward ourselves causing us to feel as though we are the centre of all the problems in the universe, that we are the one suffering all of the injustices, that we are the one who deserves greatness over all others. As alluring as it is, entitlement isolates us. Our curiosity and excitement for the world turns in upon itself and reflects our own biases and projections onto every person we meet and every event we experience...it is spiritual poison."

Man's Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl - Book Review

The preface to this book has a wonderful first line- "Typically, if a book had one passage, one idea with the power to change a person's life, that alone justifies reading and re-reading it and finding room for it on one's shelves. This book has several such passages."

I vouch for it. I've come to believe that books like life experiences, come into our lives at certain points when we are ready to receive what the book has to offer us, or when we are about to enter a phase in our lives for which the book/experience futuristically prepares us. There is so much one learns from a good book, to quote Vivienne Westwood, "It is the most concentrated experience you can have. You know, all those incredible geniuses concentrated their lifetimes' experiences in books." How much I have learnt from this book can be guessed quite easily from the number of highlighter flags on the side (So excited about my discovery of them, they're so easy to use and bring me so much joy!). Viktor Frankl was a decorated psychotherapist so I went into this book expecting to understand the meaning of life in a scientific or a theological way. This book however is about human endurance, it teaches you of the innate ability of the human mind and body to stretch itself in order to accommodate any amount of suffering as long as you will it to. It teaches you that suffering gives life meaning and about the unique connection between your mental and physical health. If you allow yourself to be humanized by his retelling of the Holocaust- how the prisoners of the camps soldiered on through everything that was meant to puncture their bodies, break their wills and crush their souls- this book is also a bearer of courage and hope. I would be doing a lousy job if I didn't record just how brilliant his writing is. I suspect this is the kind of book one re-visits from time to time to remind oneself of what we are capable. Must must read and re-read!

Becoming - Book Review

Like every other girl around the world, I too am a fan of Michelle Obama- She is indeed an icon of our times. I admire her strength, her bawseness, her straightforward demeanor, the warmth she emanates, how approachable she always seems, her forever beautiful dresses and gowns too no doubt no doubt. I couldn't wait to read this book because I wanted to get to know the Obamas. I mean I've admired them from afar since Barack's first Presidential campaign. I still remember the day he won. Mom, dad and I were riveted in front of the TV flipping through news channels all showing the same smiling faces. History had been made and we were alive to see it- the Americans had elected their first black President. I was starry-eyed listening to his Grant Park address playing on loop in all the channels, and even though it had nothing to do with our country or our economy, I was thoroughly inspired by him. I couldn't shut up about it at school the next day, I even remember asking every single relative who lived in or visited the US to bring me back a 'Yes We Can' cap or a tshirt with Barack's picture in it. But this book, this was a chance to get to know them personally, to learn of their silly experiences growing up, funny anecdotes, to hear from Michelle what a pain it was to adult and parent, to hear of inside snippets from the White House and more importantly to get some more warm, fuzzy details of their love story than the movie 'Southside with you' let on.

'Becoming' as you know is Michelle Obama's life story- A story of growth, balance, truth, and lots n lots of hope. Her life's work has been to be inclusive; to let people know in whatever way that if they can, we can. I listened to the audiobook version narrated by the author and loved every bit of it. I love how strongly feminist she is. I love how unapologetic she is about who they are as people or what they've gone through. Her philanthropic work as FLOTUS was inspiring but I have a newfound love for her as a working woman, a homemaker, a wife and a mother. It felt like a unique privilege, to be privy to some parts of their story, to get to know their family intimately and to truly understand what it means to hold one of the most powerful offices in the world. I also have renewed respect for Barack, for his love for his kids, in fact all kids in general, his love and respect for Michelle, his blessed intentions, his flair for greatness, his clarity of thought, the audacity of his hope, and the kindness of his heart. At one point in the book, she describes Barack as 'a deadly combination of smooth and reasonable' and I think that's quite simply put the best way to describe how compelling and charming he is. Michelle also has a great sense of humour. Her language is simple, unpretentious and sets a standard (right next to Mitch Albom's) I one day aspire to reach.

A generation defining story, definitely worth a read. ❤️

Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal - Book Review

I've always believed in the power of reading books because of how much I've gained from them. Books educate you, enlighten you, humble you while also entertaining you. They expose you to a world of things and ways of lives outside of your bubble. They transport you to different countries, cities, even centuries without you ever having to leave the comfort of your room. It is the cheapest way to travel the world and the only known way to time-travel. Reading widens your perceptions and shows you things you didn't know existed, it shines light on things that you knew existed but never had the chance to learn about. Reading is for the curious-minded, actually strike that, reading is for everyone. It is an escape route for some, while being a gateway to others. It can actually be anything what you want it to be.

This book was written by Jeanette Winterson who loves poetry, books and everything to do with them. She finds companionship in them, and her undying love for the language, it's power and it's beauty is the fabric on which she writes. The book is a sort of an autobiography, talking about her growing up days, her mother and what it means to be an adopted child. Now adoption of a child is a common occurrence and the problems that may stem from it are fairly predictable. Or so I thought. Nothing is simple when it comes to humans, is it? We are the oddest creatures on the planet equipped with every (metaphorical) brick needed to build a happy life, who instead prefer to wall ourselves and others with hatred, cruelty and misery.

This book was a burden (to the heart) to read because of how saddening it was, which also makes it that much important that I read it. It pushed my boundaries and made me realise how lucky I was to have had a happy childhood. It reminded me of my privileges and made me swear to never take any kind of love I have in my life, for granted. I am not a poetry lover but reading about how the author relates to poetry and finds it liberating makes me wish I was smart enough to understand it too (That and my recent watching of Dead Poets Society).

"All of us, when in deep trauma, find we hesitate, we stammer; there are long pauses in our speech. The thing is stuck. We get our language back through the language of others. We can turn to the poem. We can open the book. Somebody has been there for us and deep-dived the words."